Why are we Bickering?
Whole Soul Love tip
One of the biggest complaints of my female clients is that their male partners “don’t listen”. Generally, men tend to be single focused, while women are mavens at multi-tasking. Let’s say your man is working at the computer or just simply hanging out in his office/man cave. You begin speaking, he’s looking at you, you think he’s listening, but then quickly realize you must repeat yourself because he hasn’t heard most of what you’ve just said. This is a common frustration in relationships which often leads to bickering with the usual quips from women – “You never listen to me!” or “Why do I always have to repeat myself?” Furthermore, your man feels nagged which can lead to resentment. Let’s face it, men and women are different. Just because a woman approaches her husband or boyfriend to chat and he seems to be doing nothing, it doesn’t mean that the guy is ready to listen. He may be preoccupied, deep in thought or just plain ‘ol spaced out for a moment. Not that there’s anything wrong with that.
Here’s the solution: Find a clever way of getting his attention that won’t bring him down or raise your blood pressure. For example, preface what you’re about to say with a clever phrase specific to the two of you, to get his attention. For example, you might try – “boot up baby”, “asterisk moment”, or “yellow maserati” so he knows it’s time to pay attention. Then ladies, launch into your talk…
Whatever the phrase, make it personal or at least funny to lighten things up. Since men and women are from different planets, we need different languages in order to have harmonious living. Try it… Let me know how it goes.
Daydree is a Reiki Master/Teacher who lives and works in Los Angeles. She is a registered member of International Association of Reiki Professionals (IARP). Whole Soul Love is a service of MyOshun that provides relationship help with online dating. Click here for info and appts- MyOshun.com
Yellow Maserati – Loved that. You have such a lovely way about your writing!
i like the yellow maserati thing too! haha. when Pascal is zoned out watching t.v. and i need to speak with him about something (that i think) is important, i’ll usually stand directly in front of him, blocking the t.v., then lift my shirt up and shimmy! it works. it makes us both laugh, then i say “babe, i’d like to talk with you.” it helps!