Let’s say you invite a couple of friends for a double-date evening out. You say, “We haven’t seen each other in awhile and we’re looking forward to connecting with you two over dinner…” They say, “Cool.” Everyone is in agreement and a date is set. A few days before the evening, you send an email to confirm the time and suddenly discover your friends have invited another couple that you don’t really know at all. Now your quiet intimate evening catching up with old friends has turned into a small party. You nor your partner are quite up for it but instead of making a fuss, you just go.

The graceful goddess always asks first. It takes no more than 5 minutes to send a quick email or text to check in with the other party. For example: “Hey, I was thinking of inviting Derrick and Sue to our dinner date and making it more of a party, what do you think?” This way your friends feel respected because you’ve considered their opinion, plus, you don’t have to worry about any awkward moments if everyone doesn’t get along at dinner. One last point – it uses less energy/effort to socialize with an old friend as opposed to someone new and unfamiliar. So if you’re not quite sure what kind of evening your guests are into… just ask first.

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